Christian dating or courting
He will then guide our steps, both as we seek a marriage partner, and always.This prevents a women in selling her body and a man buying it.The following is offered as a short Christian dating guide for Christian singles to consider as they build a Christian dating relationship.As soon as I say Christian dating guide, every single Christian reading this will think they are an exception and the timing noted does not apply to them. One of the strangest phenomenons that I have observed is that singles dating behavior is more common than most of us think.
Other terms, such as 'betrothal' or even 'biblical dating' could be used, although they would possibly be confusing.
He was trying to help young men and women stop hurting each other through the endless hooking up, breaking up, hooking up, breaking up, etc. Dating/courting has turned into an elaborate set of unwritten rules which must be followed to the letter, no matter what the circumstances. But the reality is, you can’t slap these practices on top of every relationship and expect the relationship to go well.
A guy must ask a girl’s dad first, then the guy must ask the girl, then the girl must say yes, then the couple can start seeing each other IN GROUPS (! If things go well for the first eight months or so, the couple may or may not be allowed to spend semi-unsupervised time together and possibly even (GASP! Once the young man has firmly established himself financially and is sufficiently godly, he can ask the girl to marry him. Both families, as well as lots of church members, must be involved in the entire process, from start to finish. There are so many variables in each relationship: the age of the couple, the spiritual maturity of the couple, whether or not both sets of parents are believers, how long the guy and girl have been a Christian, the ethnicity of the couple, and on and on.
This plan will include such things as spending time around family and close friends to enable each other to see how the other person builds and sustains all relationships.
I do not suggest that the couple spend all their time together at this stage.